Archive for September, 2012

A Mother’s Love

Posted in Uncategorized on September 25, 2012 by tivaniam

To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power.
~ Maya Angelou

Fifteen years ago, if anyone would have said to me that my mother would become one of my favourite people, I would have laughed hysterically. During my formative, impressionable years, our relationship was strained and being a typical teenager, most of the advice I was given was usually met with some kind of mumbling and slamming of doors on my part. Needless to say, hindsight is a wonderful characteristic to possess and now that I am on the receiving end of slammed doors and eye rolling from my own pre-teen daughter, I can fully appreciate the sufferings and effort made by my mother.

This weekend, I found myself having precious quality time with my mother and aunt, both of whom are selfless, strong, independent women. Between several cups of tea and cake, we reminisced about old times and laughed at family photos taken over the years. During this laughing session, my daughter joined us and three generations of women with stories stretching through the evening, was shared. It was priceless. What I have learnt is that the relationship a woman possesses with influential women within her own family is absolutely critical for self-realisation and evolution. If you are fortunate enough to have a good relationship with your mother or a mother figure, you are infinitely blessed. Motherhood is not about biology. It is simply forging a relationship with an older woman who imparts wisdom and love and life lessons abundantly, something that can only be appreciated when you are older.

To my mum, thank you for the love you give me in abundance, for the advice you give me generously on every topic under the sun – sex included 🙂 – for the fun times we share, for being my enabler when I don’t want to diet, for being my biggest critic and greatest fan, for making me see the wood from the trees, for teaching me humility and compassion and most of all, for being non-judgmental when I make a mistake. You truly are a gem and I am honoured to call myself your daughter.

My Gratitude List

Posted in Uncategorized on September 5, 2012 by tivaniam

This year has been the hardest and most challenging that I have had to face in a long time and through it all, my positivity has been at an all-time low – fifty shades of grey takes on a new meaning here! My righteous indignation makes it hard to keep perspective but a very small gesture yesterday inspired me to write this post.

This is my gratitude list. What’s yours?

When my eighth nanny left, I thought the world would end. I reluctantly hired number nine thinking I would get more of the same. When I got home yesterday to find her feeding my eleven year old daughter because she was sick, I knew that had to be love. I am grateful for the support I get from a helper who goes the extra mile and genuinely loves my kids.

Albeit demanding and frustrating, my day job ensures that I am constantly evolving. I am learning new things every day and my limit is always stretched, so much so, that I surprise myself sometimes with what I am capable of doing. The dynamic team I work with support me greatly in my career aspirations and I am grateful to be surrounded by such mentors who make me want to be better and do better.

Notwithstanding surplus fat, I am devoid of any serious or debilitating illness. My body has given life to two amazing children and I am very grateful for that.

I am grateful for a responsible, non-alcoholic, non-philandering husband. Our marriage is far from perfect and there are times when I question myself and whether marrying him was the best decision I made, BUT, I realise that in the grand scheme of things, he is wonderful in so many ways which overshadow the irritating bits.

I saw a woman scrambling into a taxi this week, having stood in a queue for over 30 minutes waiting for public transport. I was reminded that not so long ago, that was me! I am grateful beyond words for the car I own and the freedom to drive.

Lastly, but most importantly, I am grateful for something money can never buy. The gift of love in its purest form. The women I am closest to, who are ever present in my life and who remain constant in their unwavering support and love makes me grateful beyond measure.

%d bloggers like this: