To My Armchair Psychologists

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Divorce Ring (Photo credit: Jewellery Monthly)

Since the revelation of my impending divorce, this being the second failed marriage, I have had countless unwarranted words of derision about the unfortunate situation I find myself in. Firstly, thank you for the time taken to impart such wisdom to me. I wasn’t aware of the vast knowledge each of you possessed and the level of perfection in which you live your lives which far surpasses the lives of ordinary beings. In my ignorance that level of unprecedented perfection belonged to something of a higher, omniscient power. But hey, what do I know. I should have remembered to take notes. 

Secondly, and this may come as a surprise, my life is not a democracy. I don’t aspire to live it for anyone other than me. Far from being ostentatious and worrying about putting up appearances to the detriment of my own happiness, I need only stay true to my own convictions and not what society deems correct for me. I am unapologetic and unashamed for wanting more for my life. My pursuit of happiness means that, sadly, I may end up making the wrong decisions but those are my lessons to learn.

Thirdly, and most importantly, please be advised that going forward, advice/concern/wisdom or any aspersions alluding to my choices and decisions should be given if solicited. Until then, keep your opinions to yourselves. I can assure you that while I voluntarily air my dirty linen, I do so for reasons that none of you will comprehend, primarily because its cathartic and secondarily because one person in this world may benefit from my prescience over my own life and grasp the idea of being true to exactly what and who they are and aspire to live a life of purpose and meaning.

Finally, please heed MY friendly advice to you. All of the energy that gets invested in judging me would be better utilised in an endeavour to educate yourself and perhaps that evolution and insight would offer you greater perspective into the shit that is happening in your own lives. Said shit gets swept under the carpet in a suffering attempt to paint the image of perfection you insanely believe is the reality of your life.

I don’t know what affects me more – people who see fit to judge others who are living their personal truth or the people living their truth who end up being ashamed of their choices because of armchair psychologists parading as experts on life. It’s sad.

Thanking you in advance for your discernment in minding your own fucking business.

Sincerely,

Twice divorced and happy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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10 Responses to “To My Armchair Psychologists”

  1. heather.maggs@gmail.com Says:

    I agree 100%. ;). All the very very best!!! You are right and I wish you strength each day. We are living our lives, choosing our own paths of happiness and searching … Not settling for second best. Why else are we on earth if it is not for searching for our purpose/happiness/final lesson?

    Kind Regards

    Once divorced and optimistically looking ahead to a fulfilling relationship.

    Xxx
    Sent via my BlackBerry from Vodacom – let your email find you!

  2. Damn straight Tivania – well said. Unless you have walked someone’s path and have experienced what has lead them to where they are today, SHUT UP!

  3. Hi Tivania

    I know especially in our Indian communities people can be extremeley judgemental. People simply love gossip. I love your post. It is strong and courageous. Afterall, we are all masters of our own destinies.

  4. Thats exactly what they should be doing, “minding your own fucking business” 🙂 well said. People dont realise it for themselves until it happens to them, not everybody has a perfect life. I think people are more jealous of what you have, than of what you dont have. You have charisma 🙂 So let them burn!

  5. Hahahaha! Well said!!!!

  6. Oops… posted on the wrong blog..

    Anyhoo… what I was saying was…

    So refreshing to stumble across so true to her own convictions. Struggling to remain true to mine.

    Inspiring.

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