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Honouring The Divine Masculine

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 27, 2018 by tivaniam

There’s an unspoken truth we’ve turned a blind eye to. Which I’m not prepared to remain quiet about any longer. I’ve personally witnessed the destruction this lie has amassed and I’ve seen many spirits break as a result.

The lie I refer to is the way in which we’ve been taught to regard men and the standard in which we’ve upheld them. By “we” I mean society at large. I am not a feminist or fascist in any way or form. My advocacy has always been about truth, authenticity and conscious living. My personal belief is that men and women form part of the same energetic frequency with both masculine and feminine energies. But we’ve been taught to differentiate and prescribe certain roles and responsibilities on to men, exacerbated by antiquated stories of men saving damsels in distress.

We’ve all bought into the bullshit, and hyped it further with sayings like “cowboys don’t cry”. We’ve placed the responsibility of providing financially squarely on the shoulders of men. We defined success for them as a way to measure up. We’ve defined the meaning of a “real man” according to a carefully crafted script. We’ve negated their emotional wellbeing and suppressed their innate ability to nurture or comfort because it wasn’t the “manly” thing to do. We’ve given them the responsibility of taking care of our emotional wellbeing and blamed them for our unhappiness. We’ve used religion or posterity, loyalty and obligation as control mechanisms to get them to conform. We’ve scoffed at their desire to be vulnerable because boys don’t cry. And “real men” don’t behave like sissies. And what we’ve done is create very angry and very sad men who feel isolated, scared and depressed. But they’d rather kill themselves than ever admit their truth. And so they do. The recent spate of suicides by men bears testament.

So what are we doing here and why are we doing it?

The simple answer is conditioning.

As an Indian woman I’ve seen many men aspire to become the vision that was set out for them by their parents. Often this vision had absolutely nothing to do with who they truly were, but they executed that vision to satisfy their parents. They negated their truths out of duty and obligation. I’ve also been a witness to men who wanted to express their pain and yet had to suppress it, which suppression translates into anger.

It’s time we create a new context. There is no men versus women here. It’s men AND women working together towards a collective consciousness. That is the only time we can move forward as a species. These gender specific roles are an illusion. We are all exactly the same. Honouring the divine masculine means honouring parts of ourselves as women. As a collective. There’s no differentiation. There are NO templates to follow that govern how men ought to be.

Beloved masculine, today I invite you to hold a mirror up and take a stark look at yourself. Begin to embrace the real truth and not the bullshit you’ve been fed about how you’re supposed to be. Recognise the courage it takes to be vulnerable and break down those barriers to love. Speak and own your truth. Know that your power is inherent and doesn’t need to be wielded forcefully. Understand that you don’t need to win approval from anyone. Understand that love is not conditional upon what you can provide or who you need to impress. Understand that you have the power to create your own reality. Own the fact that you CAN choose yourself and your happiness. Most importantly, break down the stereotypes and free yourself. It’s okay to exhale.

I honour the divine in You, as part of Me.

When Words Are All You Have To Keep The Demons At Bay

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on May 7, 2015 by tivaniam

As a writer, my life is full of words. I’ve learnt about the power of the written word, the importance of being a conveyor or purveyor of information. Words offer restoration and healing, or it can create wars. It can offer powerful affirmations keeping you on a high, sustaining you from the inside when everything around you is falling apart or it can fuel you with suicide ideations, perpetuating an existing loss of self-worth.

I’m guilty of having used words carelessly. I’m proud of having used words responsibly. Such is the dilemma of the human condition. Either way, it evokes a feeling.

Recently, I’ve been feeling a whole lot of negative emotions, cultivated from careless words thrown at me. Some I adopted because of how I felt at the moment, some I discarded because I knew them to be biased. However, the feeling it inspired could not be shaken and hit me at the core like a ton of bricks.

“You’re not good enough”

“I want more”

“You’re a failure”

“You have nothing to offer me”

Despite it being someone’s truth, words like that don’t serve anyone. It only corrodes.

And then, out of the blue, I’ve been inundated with words of affirmation that fed my soul, fuelled me with hope and provided me with the sustenance I needed to try again tomorrow.

“You’re devastatingly beautiful”

“You deserve it”

“You’re worth it”

“You are so loved”

“I pray for you every day”

Choose your words carefully. Once uttered, they cannot be taken back. It could be the difference between saving a life or causing someone to jump.

 

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